God and I are best friends

Valentina Kurilyak

The first 12 years of my life were in a big village called Green Koshary in Pershotravneve district, Mykolaiv region. As a child, we often went with the daddy to the forest and bred a bonfire on which the apples were baked on the sticks. After a meal, my brother and I grabbed the hands of his father, and he drove us around us. But the cases when my dad mounted me on the shoulder and I managed to get to the chandelier on the ceiling were the best. He was very fond of singing songs, and we were pleased to listen to them in the winter evenings. When I was 12 years old - my father disappeared from my life, after four years when I got the passport, I learned that he is no longer alive. And the last thing I remember about him is an evening song, which he performed at my request.

With my brother, who was two years younger than me, we were the best friends, although all of our friendship was reduced to dangerous adventures, for which our mother strictly punished us and fights with each other, but our quarrels lasted no more than five minutes after which we again planned an unforgettable adventure.

The brightest case of our robbery occurred when I was 10 years old, and my brother 8. Not far from our house was a parking lot of agricultural machinery, which we often went to explore with pleasure. And somehow at the end of the summer, when we were sitting on trees, we saw five new green combines in the direction of the parking lot, if before, we saw only Soviet combines, which were usually red and small, they looked huge and brightly- green and called "John Deere". For the next few days, we dreamed of when we would finally be able to examine these miracles. In the evening, when they returned from the fields, we got to one of the combines and climbed upwards, to our great happiness, he was open. We entered inside and, having plenty of play there, already wanted to go home, but the problem arose, the massive combine doors just closed, and we could not open them. Time passed, there was no worker, besides, my brother, Maxim, began to cry a lot before all our troubles. As I calmed him, he did not stop, then I came up with an idea how to get out of this situation. Under the seat was a lot of large tractor keys, asking my brother to hide behind the seat, I simply broke the door window with all my strength, and we quickly went outside. But because the window was broken into a lot of small pieces, and we were dressed only in T-shirts and shorts we were completely cut. When we returned home at the beginning of the tenth in the evening, my mother worked out our wounds and put her knees on corn.

Whatever the case, it was hard to find more arbitrary children, but we tried to compensate all our lepers for helping Mom in all her affairs. Though every time they hurried to finish work, to go again to seek troubles on their heads.

Subsequently, my mother, having three teenage children, married my current stepfather, whom I could not withstand from the first moment, although he was a very diligent father. His concern was that in the morning it was not a problem for him to grate carrots with apples and sprinkle nuts with us, or to eat some slices of potatoes, for which my mother was very scolded by him, or by secret from our mother to treat us with sweets. But no cares did not help me to take him to our family. The problem was that my mother conceived my sister Masha, and for me it was a terrible blow. Firstly, because I thought it was a betrayal for my father, and secondly, my mother was 42 years old and I, my sister Vera and brother Maxim were already adults. And the last one was told that she was pregnant and that's what my girlfriend did when I was at her birthday.

Most of all, I was oppressed, that the girl born to have a father, who will play with her and spend time, but my father with me is not. And sometimes the youthful protest was expressed in the fact that I did everything against the parents who were surprised by my disobedience. Although the problem lay on the surface, I was simply eating children's jealousy. In the next seven years, nobody ever asked me to play with Masha because they knew that it was better not to address me to this request. Everything else I liked doing at home, especially when my parents were not at home. After the ninth grade, he did not live with his parents, because he graduated from the 10th and 11th form in 11km from the house. But until the 10th grade, we had a tradition of iron in our home - before we had to let our brother out of the evenings to have a walk with friends, we had to read the Bible and sing from the collection of psalms. Even the parents shared the days, that is, one day we had a half-hour home worship beginning at 19:00 and lasted until 19:30, and then we ran to friends, but at 22:00 we had to go home; The delay was punished by the fact that we could not go out to friends the next three days. The second day - there was a long worship for 1.5 hours, after which we stayed home and did not go anywhere. I did not like those readings, and when it was my turn to read the chapter on the Bible, I chose the shortest, for example, the last chapter of the book of Malachi, and quickly read it all the way, showing me how unpleasant it was.

Father and mother

When I was 15, my interests and my friends did not coincide, most likely my parents gave my fruits and I became a member of the Adventist Church.

I enjoyed studying at school, I remember that at the end of the 11th form I was very worried about what to do next. One day they came to us from Nikolaev and invited to attend additional courses in physics and mathematics, because these subjects were difficult to make me decide to visit. After the courses, we were offered to become students of the Nikolaev Shipbuilding University - contrary to the request of my mother to not enter university, since I had received little money in my family. One of the factors that influenced my life further was that I had to do the opposite, not like my mother. That is, if my mother married at the age of 22 and gave birth to three children in the next 6 years, she could not finish the law school and, of course, sometimes complained to us that life had been very difficult. I thought if I did everything the other way round, then the result of life would be different.

The Faculty "Technology of Mechanical Engineering" chose absolutely randomly, offered a list of faculties, such as aircraft and shipbuilding, especially without considering choosing the profession of "Engineer-technologist". And of course, I immediately encountered problems with mathematics, theoretical mechanics, thermodynamics and other disciplines. But thanks to the fact that my father taught us never to give up, most of the subjects with great effort of will have been mastered.

With brother Maxim

By the end of the second year, during numerous sermons in the church, it became clear to me that I am very strict to my parents. Asking God to help me understand them went home. For the first time, I arrived home with a desire to see my mother and talk to her, because before this, every time I was strangled by her insult, I considered her selfish. After this trip, my mother and I have been in perfect relationship for 8 years, and my little sister Masha is telephonizing every day and I study a lot of subjects with her. She calls me my own muse, and I make her my little clever boom. Together with her, we have mastered the basics of English and German and continue - these classes every day. Sometimes with bitterness I remember why so much time was so cold to her.

With brother Maxim and sister Masha

Now my little sister is ready to bring stars from the sky, but she does not need her, she just likes to be with me, she often says to me: "I'm not afraid of anything to you, we would not do anything." Also, before the third course, turning to God in prayer, I asked for an elevated scholarship, with the condition that I would use ordinary, and everything else to be returned to Him in the form of a church offering. By the end of the 6th year, I received a scholarship.

2012 has come. An announcement was made in the church that in six months a quiz called "The World of the Bible" would take place in the book of Ecclesiastes. I and my girlfriend Valentine decided to study this book together. In three rounds: city, regional, interregional and all-Ukrainian, we were able to give the right answers.

In the interregional tour, we were both told that we will take part in the final stage of the Bible Quiz in Bucha near Kiev. Indisputably, we asked ourselves the question: "Is it possible?" This turned out to be not only possible but also real. God gave me the first place and the opportunity to learn from theology, and my girlfriend Valentine took second place in Ukraine.

Of course, having moved to Buchu, I felt terribly lonely for the reason that when I left Mykolaiv - left it not only bad in terms of erroneous decisions, but also everything is good, but it's friends and ministries that enjoyed it. Despite the correct behavior and organization of ministry, the youth church was emotionally cold and scanty. Themselves were lonely without friends and brother, who were always with me in Nikolaev.

I was also worried about my subsequent marriage, since before moving to Bucha, I decided not to be friends with my brothers, so as not to make mistakes made over five years in Nikolaev. Simply joining with potential candidates for men drew attention to the fact that communication with them tired me and sometimes count minutes until the moment I remain alone. And how you can live with a person all the life that makes me tired.

Every sermon that is sung from the department, I address personally to myself. In one of the sermons he heard the idea that when you decide that you are ready to marry, pray that "God has given a man by His will and in your heart." These words sparked me into the soul and refused all the possible candidates, three times a day I walked to the lake, prayed and asked such a man, who would be at his will and in my heart. The first three months of the first year of the Theological Faculty have passed, and there have been no answers to my prayers.

Service in Nikolaev

And once in the evening at the beginning of December at around 22:00 I remembered that I was not praying for the third time. There was snow and cold on the street, but despite this, I went out and this evening became a turning point in my life. Going to the lake, I cried and said to God I do everything I need, why do you keep silent. At this moment my phone rang, where the number of my classmate Kurilak Bogdan, which was signed by Bogdan, was twisted, since they were two on the course. I could not answer because he put the phone and went out because of the trees so unexpectedly that I was frightened. It turns out that he decided to go to me for a notebook on theology, and when he heard the phone realized that I was walking along the path. Of course, Bogdan did not get me better, but I also asked why I was crying. He did not come up with anything else like inviting him to go with me to the lake, promising to tell me why I was crying. We passed three circles for which, on emotions, he put all his experiences on what he said "never thought that such people like you might experience such experiences." At that moment a big moon came out, which showed me the wonderful blue eyes of Bohdan, who looked at me with such enthusiasm, it knocked me off the track. Returning to the room, he scolded himself for the fact that another's boyfriend opened his thoughts. I thought it was a nightmare to look at him in the future because he believed that I was always having fun and never worry. In the same way, falling asleep in my head, I thought clearly that this guy would be your husband. In response, mentally indignant, I fell asleep.

Two months later, Bohdan made me a proposal to be friends, and two years later we got married. I do not understand how, but my husband managed to conquer me with my softness and openness. Subsequently, he told me that he just wanted to see me that evening and found the drive to go over the notebook, because he fell in love with me at first glance the day we came to take the exam in order to go to the theological faculty. It turns out that all the months that I asked God's leadership to build a family with a man from Him - this man was always near.

I'm with Bogdan and Igor Kurylyak

From the moment of his proposal we have always been with him not flooded water. Our appointments consisted of the fact that we taught together all the subjects. Most importantly, Bogdan never tired me. The time with him was interesting and useful. Besides, God not only gave me a man with intelligence, but also blue eyes like my deceased father, the hands of a pianist and a sweet smile.

In the evenings, I often ask you to tell me something interesting about theological issues and every time I admire the fact that God is able to give people everything to the smallest details, you just have to ask for it.

Together with Bohdan, we are very fond of studying, and therefore, after studying in Bucha with God's help, they continued their Master's degree in theology at the Zakon Academy of theology from Andrews University.

Of course someone might wonder why to get education at the three faculties at the same time - I answer: teaching is an interesting lesson that helps to meet many unusual people who not only influence me and develop my abilities for wider service to the Lord, but also due to the collision with by me, people who do not know God, whether they want it or not, learn about the living God able to give their children a good mood and optimism in situations absolutely hopeless from the point of view of people.

Bogdan and I
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